Hypnosis is not something I would do TO you. It is something WE do together. It is a process of communication and collaboration. I cannot force you to go into trance, nor would I want to. However, I can show you how to go into trance in order to get fully connected to your subconscious mind, sort out the blocks, and ask your inner wisdom to find better strategies to reach your current goals.

I do hypnosis a little different from other practitioners. When you are in trance in my office, we keep talking throughout the whole session: It helps me knowing where you are in the process, so that I can direct you better in your quest. I will guide you on how to relax your mind and body and how to go deeper within to experience your journey deeply relaxed. Most people enjoy the trance so much, they want to stay in it longer, because, when you are relaxed very deeply, it gives a signal to the body that it is safe to start renewing, restoring and repairing itself, engaging it’s natural healing powers, and tapping into solutions. And when you learn how to do it for yourself, you become more resilient and able to function with ease and calm even in stressful situations, because by then you have already established a channel of communication with your subconscious that does its best for you, finding solutions calmly and comfortably, with patience and kindness towards yourself and others.

As the word itself suggests, responsibility is being able to respond. You are responsible for the state you create: the way you think determines how you feel. What have you been telling yourself lately? Have you been mindlessly repeating some disparaging comments you might have heard as a child, or have you been reminding yourself, “things always work out for me. I know I can, why wouldn’t I deserve success, happiness, and love?”

You can choose to concentrate on changing how you feel, as this is the only thing you are really responsible for. Instead of reacting to unwanted situations that trigger you, you can choose to take a deep breath, pause, and to respond in a way that you would like to respond. In order to make that happen you must first decide how you would like to feel. What will it look like when you respond in a calm composed manner? What will it sound, like? How else will you know you are responding calmly, the way you want? Who else will notice it? How will it affect them?

You can choose to dedicate your attention to all these questions, getting yourself ready to be ready to achieve change. Hypnosis is a great tool to achieve your goals, as it allows you to focus attention on what you want to accomplish in a very productive way. A hypnotist cannot force you to change. However, a hypnotist can show you how to do it and how to train your subconscious mind to be on board with your conscious goals.

You will be doing the work. I will be guiding you in the process, showing you how to breathe, what to say to yourself, what images/sounds to create in your mind, sometimes even what movements or steps to take to get grounded, reframe your thought patterns, and release deep-rooted emotions that might have gotten stuck, so that you can free yourself, and move forward to where and how you want to be with confidence.

This short video below is meant to make you smile and also to teach you a few steps of a short morning meditation to help you get yourself into the right state of mind when you can be your best and feel the best you can feel.

Remember, when you are setting the morning, you are setting the day.

1. As you wake up, before you even open your eyes, try to remember your dreams. Whatever snippets come to mind, jot them down. Dreams reflect subconscious processes. These images may explain what you need to do to achieve change, or how close you are to a breakthrough.
2. Drink a big glass of water, especially if you also drink coffee or tea. You already knew that, but didn’t always remember to do it, right?
3. When you brush your teeth, do it with the opposite hand. Doing so helps to exercise your brain, so both, your mind and your body have a chance to wake up.
4. When you take a shower, finish with a rush of cold water. This will strengthen your immune system, invigorate your body, and put your brain into a super state.
5. Meditate. When you get into the habit of short and frequent breathing meditation breaks, you become very efficient at controlling your state. It only takes a minute or two to take a few deep breaths into your heart, and to concentrate on something or someone you are grateful for right now. It could be your pet, child, friend, plants, or even your favorite place. Keep breathing into your heart, concentrating on that positive feeling. Now think of a couple of goals you would like to achieve today, while maintaining this feeling of gratitude and appreciation.  Open your eyes with a smile. You are now ready to have a wonderful morning and a great day.

This meditation can be done as you are still laying in bed. Do it whenever it works for you. You can do it as soon as you wake up, or when you sit down to drink your first cup of tea or coffee, or both.  The most important thing to know is that when you focus on positive thoughts and feelings, your mind tunes into receiving more and more of positive messages, reinforcing your initial input. Whenever you notice your thoughts or feelings straying away from neutral, take a deep exhale. Empty the mind by concentrating on your breath. As you inhale, count to four, as you exhale, count to eight, making sure that your exhale is twice is long. This creates space for more neutral or positive feelings and thoughts that you now CHOOSE to invite into your life. Now, find something you can feel grateful about right this moment. It can be anything as small as a whiff of lilacs outside, or knowing that you have a reliable car, and shelter and access to food, or maybe that you have a new outfit that fits you well. Nothing is too small to be grateful for. Stick to this feeling for a few minutes as your keep breathing through it. Notice the change. Allow yourself to smile. You look beautiful when you do. That’s right!

Most of us have no idea how powerful our minds are. Your input, in terms of what you think, do, or say, creates situations that correspond to the mental images you are forming. Sometimes introducing even the most subtle differences may drastically change the outcome. However, learning this subtlety requires constant attention. You must be very careful about what you are thinking, or wishing for.

Maybe you remember a similar childhood moment: a teacher of your least favorite subject is standing in front of the classroom, looking around, deciding who to ask about homework on the previous lesson. You are sitting at your desk, trying to look invisible, thinking, “please, don’t ask me, not now.” The mental image you were creating at that moment centered around you NOT being called upon by the teacher. And then, you got called upon. The reason this happened then and happens every time, is that the universe thinks in pictures, it doesn’t know grammar, and most certainly, cannot understand the word “NOT”, so whatever images you are making, they will keep materializing in your life, unless you catch yourself in time, and consciously create different images instead. In a situation above, a better image to concentrate on would be someone else being called to answer.

Regardless of how old you are or what you do, whenever you find yourself facing unwanted results, explore what you have been concentrating on. Examine your own beliefs and find those that might have created your current situation. Decide for yourself, whether all of your current beliefs serve you now. Societal myths as well as generational ones must be constantly reexamined. Identify a myth and decide if it still holds true for you. Is it serving you well, or is it time to shed it, like old skin, and free yourself from its constraints? You may find a belief that could have been useful at a time, may now need to be reframed. It is possible that you are growing out of it, the way you grew out of your old shoes. Here are a few of such beliefs.

Erroneous belief #1: You have to work hard. ( I will sleep when I die. Only those who make an effort, (struggle, sacrifice, labor) are rewarded.)

In fact, the opposite is true. Effort of forcing yourself to engage in the activities you dislike is counterproductive. How many lessons you were forced to learn against your will, when you were not ready to learn them, stuck with you until now? How much easier is it to learn something that you are open to learning, when you are ready? Allow yourself to do what you enjoy and what comes to you effortlessly and naturally. The universe does not have a requirement for you to keep struggling through everything you achieve. If you chose to do what you enjoy the most, and let others do what comes naturally and effortlessly to them, the world would be a happier place for all. Notice, that when you allow yourself to do the things you enjoy, they come to you easily. Even when you extend energy towards doing them, that does not feel like effort or struggle.

Notice your own abilities, talents, values and virtues. Allow yourself to take pride in your successes, own them. Enjoy your work and play. Focus on designing your life around them. Take credit for your achievements. This will raise your self-confidence and self-trust. Allow yourself to be authentic by sticking to what rings true to you, no matter what others think.

Erroneous belief #2: You must always find the right answer.

There is no one right answer. Find the answer that is right for YOU right NOW. People with low self-esteem or with self-trust issues are often obsessed with right and wrong. They are obsessed with proving themselves right to everyone, even at the expense of losing relationships, as they are often incapable of seeing another perspective.

Fear of not making the right decision forces us to procrastinate, as we refuse to make any decision at all, until we can convince ourselves, that the decision we are finally making is the right one. When solving a problem, it is important to realize that although it’s OK to listen to others’ opinions in order to see their perspectives, you need to make up your own mind in a way that works for you and serves your highest good. No two perspectives can be the same. You will never have all the information to make the right decision. You can’t know everything. Take a risk by making a choice anyway.

Erroneous belief #3: Not taking a risk helps to avoid failure.

Guess what, if you don’t even try, you have already failed. You have failed at all the competitions, races, and projects for which you didn’t sign up. Taking risks is one of the best ways to develop self-trust. It takes courage and allows you to see what you are capable of.

Erroneous belief #4: It is someone else’s fault.

In order to grow out of victimhood mentality, take responsibility for all your choices and decisions, be they good or bad. When we blame others for the decisions we made, we deprive ourselves of learning from these decisions, and of accepting a role of a grown up. You cannot blame someone else without simultaneously acknowledging your own powerlessness. While you see yourself as powerless, you cannot start trusting yourself. You cannot learn the lesson that came with that experience, for in the powerless state it is impossible to see what you did wrong, or which of YOUR actions, thoughts or words created an unfavorable situation. When you do see yourself as a powerful person, you are at an advantage of realizing what you can do differently to avoid the same outcome in the future. When you blame someone else, you recognize them as a victor and yourself as a victim. Such recognition perpetuates the vicious circle of trusting yourself less than others.

Erroneous belief #5: negative feelings (fear, rage, sadness) are shameful. They must be masked or repressed.

To the contrary, all feelings are good. Listen to your feelings. Emotions are a compass leading you through life. They are the instant feedback about the truth of who you are and where you are going. When you ignore your feelings, you get out of touch with yourself. Most people wage a war with their feelings by either engaging in distractive behaviors (overeating, drinking, smoking), or taking suppressing drugs. By chemically suppressing your guiding instrument, the compass that leads you through life, you muddy your intuition and impair the self-trust. You abandon yourself, deprive yourself of unconditional love by not recognizing your feelings, not honoring your boundaries, and not accepting yourself and the present moment just the way it is.

Start trusting yourself, by giving yourself unconditional approval, love, encouragement, respect and acceptance no matter how you are feeling right now. This will help you develop a new connection to yourself, and know that you are your best personal friend, a friend that can be trusted (not a fair weather one, that sticks around only when your health is good, and feelings are positive).

Perhaps a simple exercise in power of thought will help you to acknowledge your own strength. Try this: visualize a very convenient parking spot every time you set out driving, and see how much easier it becomes to find one.

As you get accustomed to visualizing desired results in any area of life: work, relationships or even shopping, you will be constantly surprised by powerful results.

If you are not driving or operating heavy machinery, start by making yourself comfortable, taking a few deep breaths and closing your eyes. Imagine that you start drifting and rising gently over your chair, room, rooftop until you can see the whole street, city, state all at once, as the earth keeps gently turning down below. Notice how everything looks from up there in the sky as you open up to your limitless imagination, allowing yourself to see things differently. After all, it’s all a matter of perspective.

American Health Magazine reported these findings from a recent study: • Psychoanalysis: 8% recovery after 600 sessions • Behavior Therapy: 72% recovery after 22 sessions • Hypnotherapy: 93% recovery after 6 sessions (From Does Hypnosis Work? A Comparison Study by Dorothy M. Neddermeyer, PhD)

There are different schools of thought regarding hypnosis, and how it should work. Sometimes hypnotists rely on the “magic effect” that makes you experience the state you are looking for immediately, within a session or two. This approach may be effective, however, unless you work on the root cause of your issues or let go of the core beliefs that no longer serve you, results of hypnosis may wear off with time. The school of thought that works for me is based on slower and longer lasting results, as I teach my clients to go in deeper and learn self-awareness through relaxation, self-hypnosis and other tools they can use to achieve desired goals even when I am not around.

Talk therapy is usually organized in such a way, that you talk, and your therapist listens. The goal is to allow you to talk through a problem, with an expectation of you finding a solution, or starting to feel better. However, your talking about problems doesn’t necessarily change anything. Sometimes, it creates more problems, as by repeating a story in the same way over and over again, you cement it into your brain. Neurons that fire together, wire together. Besides, it takes a while to figure out why certain things happen, or why you feel, act and respond to triggers in a certain way. It often takes three to five years to achieve change with talk therapy according to the American Health Magazine statistics.

Hypnosis usually produces faster results, as it allows to break up the patterns by rewiring your neurons in different ways. It uses the power of the subconscious mind, so you don’t have to re-experience the pain, or pin point the exact origins of trauma. Some issues can be healed bypassing the conscious process.  The subconscious mind operates in pictures and images. For the subconscious mind it doesn’t matter whether a situation happened in real life, or you imagined it. That is why, when you visualize your goals in a very relaxed comfortable state, you create memories that become your new known. So, when you focus your attention in a very relaxed state on a goal and visualize it as something you have already attained, your mind begins to accept it as something you already experienced, something that is familiar and safe.

Hypnosis may also allow a flow of dialogue between the conscious and the subconscious mind, so we can find out what the subconscious mind has been doing to prevent you from achieving your goals so far. Subconscious mind is like a child that is doing its best to protect you. Sometimes it makes a decision unbeknownst to you to prevent you from achieving a goal that seems dangerous or threatening in some way.

Hypnotists often use the power of storytelling, making up stories that may make no sense for the conscious mind, because they are designed to be heard by the subconscious mind, the one that is acting up like a scared little child. Storytelling is a way to get through to the subconscious mind, connecting it to the conscious mind, and getting all parts of the person on board with the task at hand.

Imagine that your mind is a ship, sailing the high seas. You can take it anywhere you want, explore different lands, achieve many different purposes, trading, carrying passengers to vacation places or returning home. Your conscious mind (the one you are aware of) is the captain. Your subconscious mind (the part of you that operates based on the default programming below the level of consciousness) is the crew. Let me ask you this, who makes a decision for the ship to leave the port and sail off?

Yes, it is the captain that makes and verbalizes a decision, however, if the crew is in mutiny, the ship will never sail. And the crew may be holding out on you, on the ship, for a very good reason. That reason always has to do with protecting you from pain, or from a perceived threat. For most people, when this happens, that means that somewhere in the childhood, or later along the way, there was a traumatic event that influenced you in a way that you developed a block preventing you from moving forward.

You may start feeling a major shift in your thinking after the first session. However, I do not promise immediate results. Most of my clients report feeling a profound difference after five sessions, some require ten. Everyone is different. It also depends on how many issues need changing, and how ready you are to work on them. In my practice I structure sessions around building up awareness, as I notice that when I teach people to do this work on their own, starting with breathing, relaxation, self-hypnosis understanding self without judgement, and learning the way of unconditional love and self-acceptance, the results they achieve are long lasting and meaningful.

“If you are always trying to be NORMAL you will never know how AMAZING you can be.” Maya Angelou

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